Valentine’s Day is often a big ol’ bucket of stress for many and NonMonogamous Valentines day is no different. Mainstream media, the retail industry, and our own expectations from years past all tell us that our V-days should be PERFECT — the heights of romantic love, the perfect gift, the perfect experience, the most amazing sex ever… you get the picture.
But so much of this is based on a flawed ideal of romantic love — that we should magically know what the other person is thinking and feeling, that we should be two parts of the same whole that we can’t survive without each other, and that love that we feel, if it’s “true love”, is unchanging and eternal. As many of us have found out, that’s not really reflective of real life — and real love — which is why so many people explore alternatives to these kinds of relationships.
The good news — for those of us who are engaging in consensual non-monogamy (whether it’s polyamory, swinging, being part of a “throuple”, or something entirely different) are in a unique position to challenge all of our assumptions about love and relationships. We regularly navigate the ways that relationships show up in our lives, and we keep working to make space for ourselves and our beloveds to find the kinds of connections that feel great for us.
Back to Valentine’s Day, though. Yeah, it’s challenging to cram open relationships into the narrow culturally-approved box of monogamous love, so rather than struggling to do that, let’s think about ways that we can reinvent the holiday for ourselves!
We're curious if you set up multiple dates? If you get together with the whole Polycule to share the love on Valentines day or if you're just starting out navigating a NonMonogamous Valentines Day
The sky is the limit for what you can do, when you slip out of the old expectations and get creative when it comes to celebrating a day of love! Let us know what you do, and share your ideas with the rest of our readers here or on our social media streams (just use #openvalentine in your post)! You never know — you might give someone else the perfect idea for their own perfect dates!
If you’re looking for a little extra help with how to celebrate your NonMonogamous Valentines Day we have some more date ideas up our sleeves. Check out our blog on DIY Pervy Painting or set up a Sexy Serenade . Perhaps you have some NonMonogamous Valentines Day tips to share with us? Connect with us on social media or find us in the app.
